We have made it to month two of 2017! Now that we are reaching the turning point of New Year’s resolutions, let’s work on things that can actually stick for the New Year.
Have you noticed that the world is noisy? Have you been inundated with information overload? Between the news, Facebook, Snap Chat, Twitter, work, school, traffic, chores, socializing, and if you have children, them too. Many of us have trouble being quiet, because it is not something that is afforded to us on a regular basis.
So for the month of February, find a quiet, calm spot in your home or office and take ten minutes of your day to just be quiet. No phone calls, snap chat, Facebook, google, etc. Just remain quiet. If you have thoughts that won’t leave you alone, take your journal and just write them down. Once they are written down, you don’t need to think about them ever again, because they are written down for you to remember.
Statistics show that by the sixth week in to a new routine, people simply give up on them. In my experience many people just try to change everything about their lives at once. We also tend to try to change things that we have zero control over. Well this is like trying to weave a basket under water and breath. Just give yourself some credit, and reward yourself with peace. Try to find your new habits one at a time, there is plenty of time to achieve a healthy calm life.
If you have children or pets that interrupt you, try to do it when they are not around or otherwise occupied, or with children, teach this skill to them. Our world is very noisy and this skill will help even your children to find their inner voice and relax.
If something is truly bothering you even after you have written it down make an appointment to see or talk to me https://calendly.com/mentalmediator/online-phone
Once you have mastered ten minutes, try to add five minutes here and there. For my over achievers, unless you are a Tibetan Monk there is no need to sit quietly for the entire day. Just enough time to quiet your mind, regain control of your emotions, and get ready for the next task.
Good Luck and stay tuned for the next new habit!
Shannon Shadman, LPC, MSMHC, NCC, M.Ed.