Are you losing your marbles?
I apologize for the delay in the monthly update. Things have been a bit hectic at SeSolutions to say the least. So much exciting things are taking place, but first let's talk Marbles.
In the interest of a happy and healthy 2017, the Shadmans started a yoga class together. If you have ever tried to find a class for a family with a young person attached then you know this can be a process. Alas we found one that is calm, patient, and kind. When I mentioned my seven year old will be joining us, she didn't even bat an eye.
This yogi opened our first class with a notion of trust. What a novel concept I thought. She wasn't referring to trusting others, she was referring to trusting oneself. Alright, I know that isn't all that novel of an idea, we speak about trust all the time. If you ever visit me via phone, skype, or in my office then trust is all around us. What about inside you?
Before we get too deep I want to define trust when it comes to inner trust. We know we trust ourselves when we can make good healthy decisions. We know we trust ourselves when we can feel confident and healthy. Brene Brown uses the acronym BRAVING
A lifetime ago I was going through a tough time. I said, "I feel like I am loosing my marbles." Well my friend surprised me with a giant box of marbles. It made me smile as her and I shared a great sense of humor. In fact many of you have one of my marbles in your pocket now.
Fast forward to today, we know that when we are stressed out we don't make great decisions, we don't eat well, we don't stay hydrated, we lose sleep, in essence losing our marbles. We questions every decision, doubt judgment, make mistakes and damage relationships. So in 2017 let's learn ways to better trust ourselves.
There is an African saying, "Be careful in trusting the person who offers you a shirt when he is naked."
That saying involves trusting another person. Not necessarily trusting yourself. At times we encounter an indecision. This indecision is so difficult that we begin to question our own abilities. Often it is hard to make a decision on our own because if it is the wrong decision then we have no one to blame but ourselves. Perhaps we don't have confidence in ourselves due to internal dialogue. Perhaps, we don't want to admit we already know the truth. Perhaps we just don't have enough information, leading to fear and anxiety.
I want you to know you have all the information you need to trust yourself. You have know yourself all your life. No need for further anxiety trust yourself and your decisions.
If you still need help with that internal dialogue let me know if your need help on how you can fine tune your skills to be more trusting of yourself and make great decisions for yourself.
Learning to trust yourself will help reduce your anxiety and stress.
Have a great healthy and calm 2017
Shannon Shadman, LPC, MSMHC, NCC, M.Ed.