First, I want to say that my thoughts and prayers are with those effected by Hurricane Matthew. Please let me know if I can be of any help during this time. I know that it is a trying time for many folks.
Recently I have come together with some folks that are grieving the loss of a loved one. I often will recommend that you attend a group. Sometimes the group will be a workout session like Zumba, maybe a church gathering, AA, NA, Alan on, or even a grief support group.
I often forget to tell you why. Tonight I was reminded of the importance of being with people on the same path you are. These people are “my people”, they don’t judge, they love unconditionally, they put words to feelings that didn’t have words before. They have a story to tell. If you are like me you have different groups of people for different parts of your life.
You have work people, kid’s friend’s people, religious people, monthly guys/girls night out people, workout people and so on. There is hardly any time for the healing people. These people are so important.
Tonight I was with my healing people and I healed a little more. Yes, I am in charge of the logistics but the benefits I gain from my healing people is tenfold. I can only hope they heal too. They provided me with wisdom beyond believe, unconditional positive regard, empathy, love, and attention.
They loved one another, listened to one another, gave each other honest stories of pain, love, rejoice, empathy, and a shoulder.
So if I have forgotten to tell you why the people on your path are so important, they are walking with you. They understand you even when you don’t understand you. They are unconditional and honest. Find your healing people. If you are wanting to lose weight then maybe a Zumba class will have your people, if you are grieving and are local come meet with our support group, if you are afraid of speaking in public maybe join a toastmasters group. If you need help finding your “people” let me know. We all need our people to help us navigate this incredibly complicated life while we are here.
Remember you are not alone, even when it is darkest.
Shannon Shadman, LPC, MSMHC, NCC, M.Ed.